Social Media Social Etiquette
The public bullying of a 29-year-old woman makes me wonder how this all became so socially acceptable.
Hello, dear readers,
Let’s talk about a TikTok that went a bit viral (on a different social media app). This is Julia Mazur, and she is a 29-year-old woman. Here she is sharing what she did over the weekend:
It's 10:45 a.m. on a Saturday. I'm 29 and single, and I don't have kids yet. Here's what your Saturday morning looks like when you're single at 29 and you don't have a kid running around the house:
I didn't rise from my bed until 10:15. Every time I thought, “I should probably get up and do something,” I thought, “Why? Nobody's making me. I'm not missing out on anything.” I went to Beyonce last night, and I didn't get home until 1 a.m. And I danced and drank my little heart out, and I didn't pay a babysitter to watch my kids as I did that. And I woke up a tad hungover this morning, which is probably why I was in bed for so long. And I was just scrolling on my phone, and I saw a picture of shakshuka, and I thought, “You know what sounds really good? Maybe I'm gonna learn how to make shakshuka today.” 'Cause I have no plans and I don't have kids and I don't have a husband and I don't have errands to run. I can go to the grocery store and learn how to make shakshuka. So that's on my agenda today. Also on my agenda is probably a rewatch of some "Real Housewives of New York." I'm also doing a rewatch of "Normal People" on Hulu, which is really spicy and I highly recommend. Weirdly, I'm into this documentary on Netflix about blue zone countries, so I've got a pretty stacked day.
Anyway, I say all this to say, whenever I'm hard on myself about why I'm not married and I don't have kids and I should be further along at 29, almost 30, I wouldn't want to do anything else this Saturday. I know that you can do all these things when you have kids and you're married, and I understand, but the effortlessness and ease of my life just kind of focusing on myself and the shakshuka I want to make or the Beyonce concert I want to go to really pays off when I'm hard on myself for not being where society tells me I should be in life.
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Pretty harmless stuff, right? Just a woman talking about how she’s pretty much okay with how her life is going. She’s happy with herself and finding fulfillment, even if that’s not what society says she should find fulfilling. She didn’t suggest that her life was superior to anyone else’s or that others should be jealous of her. She was just posting a personal vlog. Who could take issue with that?
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